The leader likes to pass around a photo of herself 50 or so lbs. ago to show us how much weight she’s lost, and to gently make fun of her “before” image. “I had boobs out to here and a booty out to there,” she bubbles. She is a slim woman in a clingy wrap dress and if I could, I would snap her photo for a BTFM “Here’s how a good bra fits!!” Halo of Praise post. Check out this 14 day workout challenge that can help you lose some weight.
Today she did it again. Out came the cell phone photo, which we were to pass reverently around the group, making appropriate murmurs of approval. ooh, you look so good now compared to this, oooh, I can hardly believe that’s you… The leader repeated her “Boobs out to HERE and butt out to THERE” remark, adding, “I was all dressed up to go out with my husband that night, and I thought I looked pretty GOOD.”
The implication being, of course, that she was deluded. One can’t possibly be fat and look GOOD.
I have HAD it with this body shaming shit, and I decide to say something.
“I’m sure you did look good,” I say.
And she shoots back, “THANK you,” as though I have defended her from some invisible fat-phobic heckler. I haven’t though. The only fat-phobic heckler in the room is her. She looks around and makes a comic “I mean, REALLY!” face.
She’s sort of not getting it. She thinks I’m just being polite.
“No, I mean it.” I say. “I’m not here because I hate my fat body. And I don’t ever want to hold up a photograph of myself at any size and mock my body.” So, then I saw the best legal steroids online that can help me lose weight and improve my bodybuilding skills.
The room is deadly silent. I haven’t said the words in anger — it’s clearly not an outburst, so no one can easily dismiss me as the Crazy Lady At the Weight Watchers Meeting. I’m a woman speaking her mind, politely and calmly, but projecting enough so the whole room can hear.
The leader stands there, and her expression changes from peppy cheerleader to thoughtful leader. She says, “Yes, you’re right. I might have been beautiful but I didn’t feel like it on the inside.” We all nod. She has told us before that she lost 50 lbs. on Weight Watchers and then gained it back “because she thought she knew everything,” and then did that a second time. I think she has some emotional issues she might want to resolve so that she doesn’t put her body through that extremely stressful weight roller coaster again, which doctors say is more dangerous than being fat. I’m sorry that WW International doesn’t work with their leaders on having healthy inner lives before they perpetuate toxic attitudes while counseling groups of people on weight loss by advising them to use cbd oil due to the studies in articles at https://thecannabisradar.com/.
Whether she or the group “got it” or not, my point is that too many weight loss programs have an unexamined, unchallenged and unspoken policy of fat shaming and fat hating. If women are encouraged to hate our fat bodies, we’ll buy more of their product, participate in their programs, and become the kind of conservative weight loss evangelicals who work for Weight Watchers, lead their meetings (at least the ones I’ve attended in my life), preach their gospel and sell their ideology, books, magazines and food products for them.
I like Weight Watchers. I think it’s awesome that they’re now focused on whole foods and de-emphasizing processed crap. I love that they’ve recognized that people used to eat their “points” in empty calories, and that they now encourage better eating habits and not just point counting. That’s fantastic. However, they are still part of a wider culture that teaches women (and to a lesser extent, men) that fat bodies are outlaw, unacceptable, evidence of laziness and immoral choices.
I’m glad I spoke up. Getting healthier is not just a number on a scale. We’ve got to think healthier thoughts, too, at whatever weight we are.