There’s a nasty word I won’t say here that describes these sunglasses. Please just don’t wear them, guys. They’re so scaggy. There are SO many other nice styles of sunnies you can rock. Avoid the wrap-around and the mirrored glasses. Please. Don’t make me say that word.
I hate to tell you, girly girls, but little, pretty accessories are OUT. One of the easiest and least expensive ways to update your look is to get a few statement pieces and rock them. Find stylish types on Instagram and follow them for ideas. Get outside your comfort zone. Think less “I’m wearing this petite locket because it’s so dear to me” and more “I have an event today : how can I project that I am a person of NOW to a community that needs a powerful religious witness NOW for TODAY’s issues.”
Save the lovely little bracelets and invisible earrings for days at the office. For anything more public, you need something bolder. Start looking for ideas and trying new things. If you’re not on Instagram or Pinterest, please do join and open your visual world. For those of us who live in our heads and in the Spirit, this is an important way to balance the verbal, metaphysical and emotional realm with beauty, art and non-verbal communication.
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I am very, very sad as I write this, having just learned of the death of a former parishioner who was very dear to me. This is one of the truly awful things about ministry. “Former parishioner” is such a cold term to use to describe someone who was dearly beloved. We are not supposed to be friends with our congregants but we really don’t have an adequate vocabulary to describe the relationships we do forge. But I know you know, dear readers, and that you understand. I haven’t blogged in a bit and I got a good question recently so I am going to respond to it, just straight up. Nothing zingy or fun in ole PB right now.
Here is the question,
I am looking for a kimono style , not long sleeved, but in solid or pinstripe to wear for interviews or work. I have bigger arms and shoulders, if I put on a structured jacket it has to be sloppy thru the body so I can move my arms. Also some of these the fabric is so flimsy that it sticks to you, I want a jacket to drape nicely. Anyone know where I could get something like this?
You have many options. First of all, actual kimonos are a *thing* in fashion now, so if you want to explore a more Bohemian side of yourself at work, go take a look at sites like SimplyBe.com or Google “Kimono” with your own little paws and see what comes up. Most of those kimonos are made of thin, poly material in bold prints, so I wouldn’t recommend them for a more professional look. They can be nice to throw on over a tailored dress or outfit, though. I personally avoid them because the sleeves fall at an extremely unflattering spot on my arms and the bright prints make me look like Mrs. Roper.
Do not wear a kimono or unstructured jacket to an interview.
I have chunky upper arms myself and own many beautiful blazers and jackets that fit me beautifully thanks to my tailor, Sunny. How many times must I emphasize this bit of wisdom, chickens? FIND A GOOD TAILOR!!
KS, I do think that Google is your friend here, as is Pinterest. Do some research. Find plus size fashionistas through their blogs and follow their Instagram accounts. I get oodles of style inspiration that way. Did you know that Google has a “Shopping” tab? When you Google “unstructured jacket” or “kimono style jacket” you will have several option tabs to click. One of them is “Web,” one is “Photos” and one is “Shopping.” Click away and see what’s out there.
I would usually go do that for you now and come up with some options but I apologize; I’m just too sad and worn tonight. Blessings.
Maury dropped by to ask what I think of this.
Maury, thanks for asking for my opinion!
I think this young lady is petulant and entitled. She is dressed inappropriately, demonstrating a lack of maturity and awareness. Yes, sexism is real, but just because the office culture seems to her to consist of a bunch of guys in jeans and Tshirts shouldn’t have any bearing on her own attire and comportment. She blew it by not arriving on time and not dressing appropriately and then she blew it again by kvetching about her experience on social media.
This reminds me that the wonderful Rev. Meg Riley wrote a great piece for job-seeking seminarians (she is the Senior Minister of the Church of The Larger Fellowship and works with many interns every year) that I meant to share here OODLES of months ago! I need to find that post.
Sexism is real, but no one is entitled to employment merely by showing up in an outfit they personally like or prefer. This attitude is going to cost a LOT of special snowflakes great opportunities. Not everything is an oppression. Sometimes it’s just a simple rejection because one is immature and looks it.