Knocked Up In Style


I love the Rev. Alison Miller’s style. When I met her I seriously thought she was about 15 years old although she was in her early 20’s. She is a very petite lady who has grown into ministerial authority beautifully through the years. Small as she is, and with a fairly youthful voice, she nevertheless manages to stake her claim in space and time by speaking with great conviction, gravitas and strength. When Alison shows up, she shows up in force. Her ministry has lately involved passionate advocacy for immigrants in the Metro New York area and she has influenced local and state legislators. In short, she rocks.

She is now, as you can see, with child. I took this photo on a hot day in Charlotte, North Carolina where I caught Alison outside in a park and attacked her with my camera. Her loving hubby stood nearby while we chatted and I snapped her photo.

What’s great about this: it’s comfortable and non-constricting but it has a very chic cut and bold graphic design that communicates boldness on behalf of its wearer. Alison could have so easily gotten into Cutesy Land with cotton sundresses or pretty-girl colors but she’s doing it just right here: sophisticated black and white in a striking day dress that can easily be made more elegant for evening with dressier shoes, pulled-back hair, make-up and dressier earrings and (say) a cuff. For a low-key afternoon at the tail end of a denominational conference out for a walk in serious heat….! she’s looking sharp.

Blessings of good health and joyous anticipation to you, dear colleague.

Petite Clericals?

Hey gang!

I will be ordained in August as a Deacon in the Episcopal Church. I wear petite size 4 and sometimes I can get away with a 6 if it is cut small. I need to buy a black clergy blouse but clergy blouses seem to start at women’s size 6 or size 8. Any tips for where to find smaller sizes?

I knew some of you could answer this. There may be some tips in the archives too, but let’s see what we can come up with for this new deacon. Thanks! MWAH!

Petite Pastors – Don’t Drown Yourself In Fabric

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Here’s an Associate Pastor of a congregation in a very affluent community dressed for Sunday morning (accompanied by her prosh dog):

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She just had an adorable baby about nine months ago (I have a hilarious video of him all dressed up for church that I want to share with you, but I can’t figure out how to get it from playing sideways) and although she looked really lovely when I saw her in person, now that I’m looking again at the photo I’m thinking Girl, I think those clothes are too big on you!

A couple of thoughts on this outfit:

The major contrast between light blazer and dark pants cuts our gal in half, drawing attention to the fact that her pants are pooling around her shoes because they’re falling off her tiny waist (she knows this — but with a baby, who has time to go to the tailor?).

What totally works about this outfit is the colorful top that adds interest and life and a creative touch to the basic pieces. Classic hair and just enough soft make-up give her a polished look. She definitely looks professional but I would highly recommend that if one piece of one’s outfit is a bit over-sized, make sure that the others are not. For instance, if L. had a shorter jacket and top with a defined waistline (she needs petite sizes, methinks), she could better get away with the roomy pants. Another good option is to stay within the same approximate color palette when we want to disguise a garment that doesn’t quite fit. I can see her in a dark cotton ribbed mock turtleneck with a gorgeous belt, slightly more dramatic earrings and a higher heel. Bingo. Suddenly the roominess of the trousers aren’t just too big — they provide balance.

Petite guys and gals have a constant challenge in not drowning in their clothes and — on the other hand — not wearing things that are overly snug. Auntie PeaceBang recommends this to her petite colleagues: stick to clothing cut especially for petites whenever possible, and be very careful to avoid looking child-like with either juvenile cuts, colors or styles. Avoid “cute” in favor of “classic.” And don’t feel you have to compensate for being of small physical stature with Big Important Clothing, either, which can just make you look like you have a Napoleonic complex (especially, I’m afraid, on men).

I know, it’s tough!! That’s why your Tailor Is Your Friend. And when you find a pair of slacks, skirt or jacket that fits you like a wonder, buy TWO and take exquisite care of them!

(Which reminds me that there’s a tiny woman in my congregation who completely changed her wardrobe a year or so ago to look less cute and more classic and who did it BRILLIANTLY. I’ve been meaning to take some photos of her — and will do so after I return from sabbatical because THIS you gotta see. She’s my poster girl for Chic Petite now).

Great Look For Petites

This beautiful lady is not a minister, but she’s a great example of how to dress professionally as a petite. Laura was tiny in high school and she’s still tiny after having borne two children and lived through twenty-five years. (I was petite in high school too, but, um, time has not been as kind to me!)

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She isn’t obscuring her face with a lot of hair — she’s got a cute, gaminesque haircut. Not everyone could carry that off, but Laura is beautiful and she can. As she gets older, I think it would work well for her to grow the hair down over her ears a bit.
She’s brightened her face with a pop of red lips– fabulous.
The shirt and skirt fit perfectly — the blousy top works very well with the more fitted skirt, which has a lovely flare detail at the bottom. There’s a definite femininity here but nothing overtly sexy, thanks to the muted colors.

Shoes are great — a classic slingback is always appropriate for work.

This was Sunday afternoon following a concert at church. Steal this look. It’s just perfect.