Oversized Vs. Just Too Big

What did this model do to deserve being drowned in all this fabric by the stylists of the Nordstrom’s catalog?

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Poor gal, trying to stand all sideways trying to get a shape going under all that hideola purple ruffle:
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The bright blue piping helps create the illusion of shape here, but the dang thing is still just too big!
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Look how happy she is now! Someone finally brought her a top in the right size! (I’m pretty sure this is the same model, with better hair and make-up):
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Here again, she’s wearing a boxy, oversized jacket but she’s not drowning in it — she’s got on a form-fitting totally cool tank underneath:
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Same thing here. Boxy, geometric shape over body-conscious basics = chic. Just too big = frumpy.
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Interesting Shapes

Dressing simply and in a classic style doesn’t mean having to stick with the same old same old. It means paying close and careful attention to line, fit and fabric and making sure that all three of those elements are appropriate and flattering, and of as good quality as you can afford.

Real classics (think cashmere sweater, perfect wool skirt, etc.) don’t need to be updated every season or even every few years, but if you want to add something very “of the moment” to your fall wardrobe, consider some of the interesting shapes out there in sweaters and jackets. I saw this little sweater at a local boutique and thought it would be beautiful with a pair of charcoal trousers, a pencil skirt, or even a super pair of dark denim pants (notice I’m avoiding the word “jeans”). Add a beautiful, simple pendant on a long chain or a set of silver bangles and boom, you’re set to go.

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(I don’t know how the sleeves work, but there are sleeves in there.)

Fresh Soy Cleanser And Your “Counter-Cultural” Face Today

At $38 a pop, this cleanser isn’t a reasonable option for all of us. But PeaceBang was having such trouble with blotchy, irritated skin last spring she asked the cosmetic goddesses at Sephora for advice (warily, because although they act like your Concerned Aunt Mabel, they’re working girls and guys trying to make a commission, and we must be wise as serpents about that reality). A young creature with eyelashes as long as my arm recommended this product, I purchased it with hope in my heart, and within a week or so my skin was noticeably calmer and less red. I love that it dissolves eye make-up with ease, and that one uses so little of it that it lasts for a couple of months.

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Darlings, please consider thinking more seriously about your skin care routine. I still notice a very high incidence of Serious Drabosity at religious gatherings, and if I didn’t know better I’d think that we were all taught in seminary that dull, blotchy skin, bags under the eyes and lank hair were signs of Christian virtue. They are not. Check Paul: “drab face” is not in there. Ask yourself this: have I convinced myself that lack of grooming and skin care make me seem somehow more gentle, loving, compassionate, and a better representative of the Kingdom of Heaven? Do I believe that eschewing these vain concerns makes me truly more humble?

If so, PeaceBang must tell you a hard truth: it doesn’t read that way to the people you work for and with. A wan, splotchy, maybe even flaky-skinned or scraggly face doesn’t say “humble” anymore. Maybe it did at one time. Maybe at one time it said, “groovy” or “counter-cultural” or “Jesus-like.” Times have changed. They’ve changed a lot. Nowadays that same visage reads “uncared for,” “unhealthy,” “can’t be bothered” and even “disrespectful.”

Surprised? Don’t be. Pay attention to 2008. While counter-cultural once may have meant skipping lipstick and letting our hair go au naturel it now means things like foregoing Botox, considering plastic surgery as too extreme, and reflecting on how toxic to the environment a product, perm/chemical straightening, hair color or nail polish may be. Do you see what I’m saying? Just as exegetical methods change style over time, so do visual images and their meaning. You are not only a spiritual being with a great big heart and brain, you are a public figure and a visual image.

What visual image are you projecting on behalf of the work of ministry in 2008?

The Dreaded Sandals With Pantyhose

I’ve been writing this blog for two years, and I know you’re out there. You read. You iron. You look in the mirror and do hair management and Stole Straightening before you go preside at a funeral. You are walking taller and looking sharper because you’ve realized that clergy image matters, that whether we like it or not, our exterior selves do represent an interior reality. You’re spiffin’ up for Jesus (or God or Buddha or Allah or … The Great To Whom It May Concern).

And then Peacebang attended a Ceremonial Event and one of her colleagues was wearing Bierkenstocks with vestments. But not just that: Bierkenstocks with panty hose.

And PeaceBang knew her work was far from done.

How To Wear (Or Not) “The Latest Fashion”

Darling readers with concerns about how to wear the “new” chic jacket shape, a word for you: if it doesn’t work for your shape, don’t.

This goes for all of us, with all trends. And let’s not call them trends, because that sounds so frivolous and ephemeral. Let’s say, “style changes,” which helps us understand that when we pay attention to fashion, we are not falling prey to some kind of idiotic consumerism but respecting that just as there are changes and innovations in, say, Scripture interpretation, there are also innovations in how people look — especially people who strive for a public image that communicates an interest in what’s happening today, now. It is the way of the world. Those who claim in superior tones to be “above it all” are not actually above anything at all but are merely stubborn, in denial, and very likely lookin’ pretty frumpy out there.

Do flip through a mainstream fashion magazine at least once a season. You don’t have to buy it; just flip through it. Do take a moment to check out the displays in store windows and at flagship stores in the mall (Macy’s and Dillard’s and Banana Republic, not “Forever 21” or “Hot Topic.”) Do be aware of why that Hawaiian print collarless, buttonless jacket in your closet that falls to mid-thigh is hopelessly 1980’s, and not in a good way, and be aware of the latest cuts and silhouettes. Then translate them to your own body. There is never just one classic or fashionable look available at a time, sweethearts, there are many. If boxy, short jackets makes you look like a big meatball, don’t get NEAR them. Find a short belted jacket with fun pockets in a great color. Add a belt to one of your favorite classic cardigans and pair it with a blouse that’s more au courant. There are thousands of options for you to choose from, and lots of creative ways to update what you already have. You just have to pay attention, be willing to weed out your closet at least annually to get rid of hopelessly outdated looks that will immediately identify you as stuck in 1993, and learn what works for your shape.

Remember: Just Because It Still Fits Doesn’t Mean You Should Wear It.
And if you truly have no wardrobe budget and foresee no possibility of having one in the near future, stick to classics (nice black trousers, crisp white blouse, classic pumps, blazer) and make sure they fit well and are kept impeccably clean and pressed. We should all be clean and pressed, of course, but if you have six items hanging in your closet and only six, you’ll feel better about them if they look really immaculate. There’s no need for a big wardrobe anyway. There is, however, a need to pay attention to wildly out-of-date garments you may still be donning on a regular basis and to part ways with them.